Mom and i both have Blur vision

Strangely i am having blur vision or floaters today. Oh no, it cant be premature cataract! Well, it is the inherited family disease that comes from my mom which may ingeniously discriminate between 'us and 'other' women. Both of us dont mind getting the 'blur vision' simply because both of us seldom (or dont) wash our glasses and most often than not, we have thumb prints on our glasses. This is just a reflection on the way of living we both have been engaged in. Mom and I are always up to something, and cleaning glasses seems too trivial for us. Yes, instead of holding, we grab glasses as we exit the bathroom. We can ignore the blur images (on our glasses) but not the laundry, and not the list of things-to-do in our mind, and certainly not the added businesses like baking homemade pizza base for lunch, preparing baked beans from the kidney beans I happily got at special offer......and the list goes on. And we are always multi tasking. But of course, up till today, i still cant beat her for being able to sew, watch TV series, chit chat and cook... all concurrently! The best achievement i have recorder so far is to iron, talk over the phone and write down shopping list ---- yet still 1 item less from mom's list. If ever we were to choose another name for ourselves, it would should be MT for Multi Tasking. Yet, i still lack one important bullet in the list -- being Jane of all trades, i am still mistress of none.

《写给妈妈的佛法书》---不烦不忧照顾好自己与孩子。（Buddhism for Mothers --- by Sarah Napthali)

"有太多的妈妈，由于要处理家庭的忙碌或是在工作与孩子之间穷于应付，而感到分身乏术。我们都有这样的经验：整天呆在家里，挣扎于无聊，不得安宁，无意义，或甚至绝望等心理状态。我们很容易就会认为，只有当我们将所有例行事务完成，而且孩子都已经入睡或有人照顾时，内心才可能平静。因此，在实际上，如果我们能在一天当中有一小时感到类似放松的心情，或许就该算很幸运了。然而，我们可以在佛教里头找到一些教导来帮助我们，让我们在做任何事或跟任何人相处时都能感到平静。
用佛教的方法来处理负面心理状态时，要慢慢进行，一次一小步。我发现，不论哪位以佛教方法来练习的妈妈，都会说这些方法帮她们在做亲职工作时更有耐心，更平静，但这样的改变并非一夜之间就出现，但是需要一段时间的。正如同性灵成长的许多面向，前进一步可能紧跟着就是退后两步-----很少出现一路进步的情形。不过，可让人感到激励的是，长期来说，整体的进步是显而易见的。这天终究会来到，到时你更知道自己已取得进展，也可能是当你很清楚自己可以更平静来回应正发生的情况时。
每一位我遇到的妈妈似乎都有些困难需要解决，不论是缺乏家庭的支持，跟另一半的关系紧张，没有充分的时间给自己，睡眠严重不足，或者为孩子担忧。我从未遇过哪位妈妈不值得别人给她卡车慈悲关怀的，所以我们也不该亏待自己，让自己少了关怀。不要在处理让人不舒服的情绪时，觉得有罪恶感或感到挫折，正因为这些情绪带来了痛苦，所以我们要以更多慈悲及耐心来善待自己。我常常提醒自己，以慈悲来对待自己及所遇到的困难和失败经验，是让自己可以慈悲过日子的第一步，而实际情况验证了这样提醒确实有帮助。” 摘自《写给妈妈的佛法书》---不烦不忧照顾好自己与孩子。（Buddhism for Mothers --- by Sarah Napthali).