"记者：您今年84岁高龄，您的母亲也活到90多岁，你们家族长寿的秘诀是什么？
星云大师：长寿要有长寿的因缘，要简单啊，淡泊啊，运动啊，心宽啊，喜悦啊，正派啊，放下啊，舍得啊，欢喜啊，慈悲啊。”
是呀，淡泊，舍得。。。欢欢喜喜迎接这个早晨，这期生命。但切非为了长寿。：）
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Rudolf Steiner's words
"The heart of the Waldorf method is that education is an art – it must speak to the child's experience. To educate the whole child, his heart and his will must be reached, as well as the mind."---Rudolf Steiner
Sunday, July 24, 2011
To Dream Or Not To Dream?
Following the post on To Waldorf Or Not To Waldorf, I thought it might be good for me to think of myself as a dreamer.
This strikes me when Teacher Lin had a sharing on Study of Man: Lecture 2.
Interestingly she started the session with my favorite song, Imagine by John Lennon:
Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
-- Oh! How true it is! --about myself.
I dream....like Martin Lurther King
"I have a dream today!" --- has always been my favorite quote of most days. :)
I dream when i bath....at most of the times.
I dream too when i sleep.
I didnt meant i was really in the Rapid Eye Movement(REM) state or whatever, i mean a DREAM that is born out of passion and my imagination world!
I started to see my purpose of life: that i gladly 'poke' people around me so that they are able to pursue their dream and uplift their lives. haha!
This strikes me when Teacher Lin had a sharing on Study of Man: Lecture 2.
Interestingly she started the session with my favorite song, Imagine by John Lennon:
Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one
Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world
You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one
-- Oh! How true it is! --about myself.
I dream....like Martin Lurther King
"I have a dream today!" --- has always been my favorite quote of most days. :)
I dream when i bath....at most of the times.
I dream too when i sleep.
I didnt meant i was really in the Rapid Eye Movement(REM) state or whatever, i mean a DREAM that is born out of passion and my imagination world!
I started to see my purpose of life: that i gladly 'poke' people around me so that they are able to pursue their dream and uplift their lives. haha!
Friday, July 22, 2011
Do You Really Need A Waldorf School?
That's the main question next to "To Waldorf or Not To Waldorf?"
If I choose to Waldorf, which and where is the Waldorf school that I can go?
I would regard all pricey schools as elite schools and all schools that cater for the rich and famous are not a healthy way of educating a child.
Waldorf way of education...has never been meant to be a branded and luxury way of educating.... I mean how could it be when it was first started on a factory and right after the world war II?
After a few encounters, I realized it has to be more important and most important to have a Waldorf way of living, i.e. Waldorf family then anything else.
Mrs M has compiled a list on what a Waldorf family would do:
-Get rid of the televisions, video games, and limit computer access
until age 12.
-Go outside and play every day, year round.
-Eat your food whole.
-Hug every day.
-Rhythm
-Be open to what the little ones will teach you.
-Make it yourself, and if you don't know how, learn
-Tell stories & play games. A lot.
-Think about how your things speak to you.
-Keep the voices calm, quiet, and as natural as possible.
-“Do not worry that your children never listen to you, worry that they
are always watching you.” ~ Robert Fulgum
-Meditate or do some form of inner work daily
-Rid yourself of anything that has not been touched in over a month.
-Sing and share lovely verses for important (and every) days
-To create rituals around bedtime, praying to our guardian angels and
sing lullabies.
-Singing throughout the day
-Hold back intellectual concepts from under 7 as they are mostly in the
motor centre before then.
-Try and keep a dreamlike quality in everything you do.
-Slow down and take time.
-Establish rhythm, use reptition, foster reverence, awe and wonder
-Create a beautiful and harmonious environment
-Honor the need for time and space
-Sing through the day
-Have conversations with the spiritual world
-Remember the elemental beings
-Be authentic in what you do and say -- kids are adept at sniffing out
a RAT :)
-Do not lie -- my example is that if I have say, chocolate, in the
house and my daughter asks, I give or say "let's wait until after
supper". I don't lie and say we don't have any -- If I don't want her
to have it, I don't bring it into the home. "white" lies really
undermine the trust relationship and teach your kid to be dishonest.
-Involve the children in the running of the house. Get them helping in
all areas of domestic work from a very young age 2+. in, of course,
age appropriate ways.
-Active learning - learning by doing, by observing, by making, by
experiencing.
-Make things from scratch, let the kids be involved and observe the
-TIME and love necessary to create something beautiful and lasting.
-Create gardens, meals, tree forts, gifts, art....
-Working on ones self (meaning the parent)
If I choose to Waldorf, which and where is the Waldorf school that I can go?
I would regard all pricey schools as elite schools and all schools that cater for the rich and famous are not a healthy way of educating a child.
Waldorf way of education...has never been meant to be a branded and luxury way of educating.... I mean how could it be when it was first started on a factory and right after the world war II?
After a few encounters, I realized it has to be more important and most important to have a Waldorf way of living, i.e. Waldorf family then anything else.
Mrs M has compiled a list on what a Waldorf family would do:
-Get rid of the televisions, video games, and limit computer access
until age 12.
-Go outside and play every day, year round.
-Eat your food whole.
-Hug every day.
-Rhythm
-Be open to what the little ones will teach you.
-Make it yourself, and if you don't know how, learn
-Tell stories & play games. A lot.
-Think about how your things speak to you.
-Keep the voices calm, quiet, and as natural as possible.
-“Do not worry that your children never listen to you, worry that they
are always watching you.” ~ Robert Fulgum
-Meditate or do some form of inner work daily
-Rid yourself of anything that has not been touched in over a month.
-Sing and share lovely verses for important (and every) days
-To create rituals around bedtime, praying to our guardian angels and
sing lullabies.
-Singing throughout the day
-Hold back intellectual concepts from under 7 as they are mostly in the
motor centre before then.
-Try and keep a dreamlike quality in everything you do.
-Slow down and take time.
-Establish rhythm, use reptition, foster reverence, awe and wonder
-Create a beautiful and harmonious environment
-Honor the need for time and space
-Sing through the day
-Have conversations with the spiritual world
-Remember the elemental beings
-Be authentic in what you do and say -- kids are adept at sniffing out
a RAT :)
-Do not lie -- my example is that if I have say, chocolate, in the
house and my daughter asks, I give or say "let's wait until after
supper". I don't lie and say we don't have any -- If I don't want her
to have it, I don't bring it into the home. "white" lies really
undermine the trust relationship and teach your kid to be dishonest.
-Involve the children in the running of the house. Get them helping in
all areas of domestic work from a very young age 2+. in, of course,
age appropriate ways.
-Active learning - learning by doing, by observing, by making, by
experiencing.
-Make things from scratch, let the kids be involved and observe the
-TIME and love necessary to create something beautiful and lasting.
-Create gardens, meals, tree forts, gifts, art....
-Working on ones self (meaning the parent)
To Waldorf or Not To Waldorf?
Whether or not you Waldorf has got to go back the first question on: "What makes you come to Waldorf education?"
The moment you started to search for an alternative for the current schooling system, you know you are bound to change for better.
You cant remain in a nutshell of ignorant when you are already directed to the door of Waldorf.
You can, of course, remain in your previous ways of educating your children, but one thing for sure, that you will never be the SAME old you.
You know, that, one thing for sure, you will keep learning....the Waldorf ways....
coz that's ultimately the main reason of education --- to keep learning and learning, even though you may know a lot but you will still remain as humble as can be, and at the same time enjoy the learning process as much as you can.
If not to Waldorf, I am sure whenever there is a seminar on how to make parent better/happier or how to destress a busy working parent, or a workshop on how to produce a smarter & brighter kid or how to score A the easy way, your heart will direct you to look on how to squeeze time out of busy calendar to make up for this supposingly 'influential and great enough' program. You are probably searching for a quick fix or one time deal solution that will ease you to better sleep days.
If not Waldorf, you will probably be thinking of.....
- migration? - but...hmmmm...that doesnt happen so soon, and what about the rest of my families?
- homeschooling? -- since this is a current 'trend' now. But what about curriculum?
- get involve in politics to change the education? -- neh, dream la. Get KOTOR first before this comes in picture
Back to the question again, "To waldorf or not to Waldorf?"
I think that has to be changed to "To change or not to change?"
Or "To learn or not to learn?"
Next Question: Do you really need a Waldorf school?
The moment you started to search for an alternative for the current schooling system, you know you are bound to change for better.
You cant remain in a nutshell of ignorant when you are already directed to the door of Waldorf.
You can, of course, remain in your previous ways of educating your children, but one thing for sure, that you will never be the SAME old you.
You know, that, one thing for sure, you will keep learning....the Waldorf ways....
coz that's ultimately the main reason of education --- to keep learning and learning, even though you may know a lot but you will still remain as humble as can be, and at the same time enjoy the learning process as much as you can.
If not to Waldorf, I am sure whenever there is a seminar on how to make parent better/happier or how to destress a busy working parent, or a workshop on how to produce a smarter & brighter kid or how to score A the easy way, your heart will direct you to look on how to squeeze time out of busy calendar to make up for this supposingly 'influential and great enough' program. You are probably searching for a quick fix or one time deal solution that will ease you to better sleep days.
If not Waldorf, you will probably be thinking of.....
- migration? - but...hmmmm...that doesnt happen so soon, and what about the rest of my families?
- homeschooling? -- since this is a current 'trend' now. But what about curriculum?
- get involve in politics to change the education? -- neh, dream la. Get KOTOR first before this comes in picture
Back to the question again, "To waldorf or not to Waldorf?"
I think that has to be changed to "To change or not to change?"
Or "To learn or not to learn?"
Next Question: Do you really need a Waldorf school?
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Shanghai Mooncake --2nd trial after 5 yrs
There I go itchy...super itchy again.
Made some 'fake' lotus paste using the hulled mung beans...at last. Thanks to Phoebe's Mom. Tasted...quite nice though, so i decided to go forward to produce the Shanghai Mooncake.
But cant find salted duck eggs at these hours of late afternoon.
Never mind....just get going before this itchy mood cool off.
Some 5-6 yrs ago, i did the Shanghai Mooncake with the lotus paste. It was a truly deadly experience for me as i cooked the lotus paste from blending, de-skin till cooking to produce the paste form ---- all because i didnt want to use the $%^& alkaline water. Then when it come to the pastry, I think i did some modification too by not following the recipe. If i am not mistaken, what i did was lessen the custard powder content and thus making the skin to flob and 'flow' away like cream when mooncake was heated up in the oven --- all because i didnt favor using custard powder, I thought it tasted horrible with the essence smell.
Now learning from my previous lesson, i know i got to follow the recipe first before i made any modification further.
It was a success! Albeit the inner paste didnt really tasted like the lotus paste.
But anything hot from the oven is always irresistible!
Made some 'fake' lotus paste using the hulled mung beans...at last. Thanks to Phoebe's Mom. Tasted...quite nice though, so i decided to go forward to produce the Shanghai Mooncake.
But cant find salted duck eggs at these hours of late afternoon.
Never mind....just get going before this itchy mood cool off.
Some 5-6 yrs ago, i did the Shanghai Mooncake with the lotus paste. It was a truly deadly experience for me as i cooked the lotus paste from blending, de-skin till cooking to produce the paste form ---- all because i didnt want to use the $%^& alkaline water. Then when it come to the pastry, I think i did some modification too by not following the recipe. If i am not mistaken, what i did was lessen the custard powder content and thus making the skin to flob and 'flow' away like cream when mooncake was heated up in the oven --- all because i didnt favor using custard powder, I thought it tasted horrible with the essence smell.
Now learning from my previous lesson, i know i got to follow the recipe first before i made any modification further.
It was a success! Albeit the inner paste didnt really tasted like the lotus paste.
But anything hot from the oven is always irresistible!
Tuesday, July 19, 2011
学做公仔饼
学做了传统公仔饼，过程中就好象在延伸老人的传统精神。我想，我会喜欢变老，老呵，象征智慧和成熟。黄舒骏的‘不要变老’是唱着世间人对物质的看法吧，但是‘老’本身，其实是越老越有力量的，比如，越老越有资格分享人生，分享经验，还有呈现永垂不朽的智慧。感恩过去的老人
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Childhood dream --- Waldorf dolls
They have been playing and playing and playing....with these dolls....
I gave away a few Barbie dolls before which didnt bring much excitement, creativity, and most of all LoVe....
Jo Von wanted a purple wool hair doll that has a detachable scarf.
That's hell of a challenge for me coz i knew only the one Swee Kian had taught - a sewn in scarf with a little bit of wool hair.
When the whole doll was ready, she slept with the doll and woke up searching for it in the early morning.
Used up my longed kept yellow minky fabric that i bought from Australia....nice feeling.
And this belonged to Jo Ee.
She wanted a doll which has longer hair so that she can tied up.
The body was made from the bamboo terry fabric --- also another nice feeling fabric that i cut out from the diaper inserts.
She was as contented as before....she always has a flair for dolls....and that served up the whole day and night.....and nothing else.
Isn't this what childhood is all about?
Children....just need simple toys, preferably handmade by mom to make their happy and contented days.
I gave away a few Barbie dolls before which didnt bring much excitement, creativity, and most of all LoVe....
Jo Von wanted a purple wool hair doll that has a detachable scarf.
That's hell of a challenge for me coz i knew only the one Swee Kian had taught - a sewn in scarf with a little bit of wool hair.
When the whole doll was ready, she slept with the doll and woke up searching for it in the early morning.
Used up my longed kept yellow minky fabric that i bought from Australia....nice feeling.
And this belonged to Jo Ee.
She wanted a doll which has longer hair so that she can tied up.
The body was made from the bamboo terry fabric --- also another nice feeling fabric that i cut out from the diaper inserts.
She was as contented as before....she always has a flair for dolls....and that served up the whole day and night.....and nothing else.
Isn't this what childhood is all about?
Children....just need simple toys, preferably handmade by mom to make their happy and contented days.
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Mooncake recipe 公仔饼食谱
Ingredient:
100g plain flour
30g peanut oil
65g golden syrup
1/2 tsp alkaline water
The alkaline water is to:
1) Improve the elasticity in the dough
2) Give it its golden color
3) Neutralizes the acidity of the syrup.
If you omit the alkaline water, the imprint of the mooncake might not be clear and the pastry might not hold its shape and just become a blob after it is being baked
1．把糖浆，油及视水搅拌均匀，摆置5分钟
2．Sieve plain flour into a mixing bowl. Make a well in the flour and pour in the warm syrup. Mix till a dough is formed. Cover the mixing bowl with a wet towel and rest the dough for 30 - 45 minutes.
3．Divide dough and filling according to the size of your mould. Shape the dough into a round flat sheet with sides thinner than the centre.
4．Wrap in the filling and mould it into a ball shape. Coat it with flour.
5．Dredge wooden mooncake mould with flour and put the mooncake into the mould. Flatten it with your floured palms and make sure that the mooncake fills up the mould nicely.
6．To dislodge the mooncake, bang the mould on a hard surface with equal force in the north, south, east and west direction.
7．Place mooncakes on a lined pan and spray the mooncakes with some water.
Spraying of water is to prevent the mooncake skin from cracking or blistering during the baking process.
8．Bake at 180C - 190C for 10 minutes. Remove from oven, cool the cakes for 5 - 10 minutes then apply egg glace and bake for another 10 - 15 minutes or till golden brown. As every oven varies, please standby to check on your mooncakes. If you are doing standard size mooncakes, the baking time might be longer.
9．公仔饼烘烤出来，立即把蛋液抹上2次或者以上，完成
10．Store cooled mooncakes in an airtight container and serve only after 3 days.
11．贴心提醒 ：
1。做公仔饼不需要很大力的压进模子里，这样会令公仔饼比较结实。轻轻的一压，公仔饼才能够显出松软
2。新出炉的公仔饼有点硬度，要放置 3天或者以上回油后，才能够享用
My little experience:
1. First trial: was done successfully with the addition of alkaline water.
2. Second trial: was done together with Fong Ling and Seok Lee and tried out by omitting the alkaline water. It didnt turn out well....was hard. But i think it was not because of not using alkaline water, but rather when we have more people to involve, we tend to talk and that distract our attention. No wonder why old people used to say when they were baking those traditional delicacies, they tried not to have many people around. Partly i think is due to distraction.
3. 3rd trial: was a done in a rather hasty mood coz while seeing the unsuccessful of the 2nd trial, i hastily tried out at night. Baking, must be done in rather quiet and steady mood, i guess.
4. 4th trial: tada....i waited for near 3-4 hours before i left the mixture to 'sit' and bake them. And they are true success! This time, i used the required alkaline water.
100g plain flour
30g peanut oil
65g golden syrup
1/2 tsp alkaline water
The alkaline water is to:
1) Improve the elasticity in the dough
2) Give it its golden color
3) Neutralizes the acidity of the syrup.
If you omit the alkaline water, the imprint of the mooncake might not be clear and the pastry might not hold its shape and just become a blob after it is being baked
1．把糖浆，油及视水搅拌均匀，摆置5分钟
2．Sieve plain flour into a mixing bowl. Make a well in the flour and pour in the warm syrup. Mix till a dough is formed. Cover the mixing bowl with a wet towel and rest the dough for 30 - 45 minutes.
3．Divide dough and filling according to the size of your mould. Shape the dough into a round flat sheet with sides thinner than the centre.
4．Wrap in the filling and mould it into a ball shape. Coat it with flour.
5．Dredge wooden mooncake mould with flour and put the mooncake into the mould. Flatten it with your floured palms and make sure that the mooncake fills up the mould nicely.
6．To dislodge the mooncake, bang the mould on a hard surface with equal force in the north, south, east and west direction.
7．Place mooncakes on a lined pan and spray the mooncakes with some water.
Spraying of water is to prevent the mooncake skin from cracking or blistering during the baking process.
8．Bake at 180C - 190C for 10 minutes. Remove from oven, cool the cakes for 5 - 10 minutes then apply egg glace and bake for another 10 - 15 minutes or till golden brown. As every oven varies, please standby to check on your mooncakes. If you are doing standard size mooncakes, the baking time might be longer.
9．公仔饼烘烤出来，立即把蛋液抹上2次或者以上，完成
10．Store cooled mooncakes in an airtight container and serve only after 3 days.
11．贴心提醒 ：
1。做公仔饼不需要很大力的压进模子里，这样会令公仔饼比较结实。轻轻的一压，公仔饼才能够显出松软
2。新出炉的公仔饼有点硬度，要放置 3天或者以上回油后，才能够享用
My little experience:
1. First trial: was done successfully with the addition of alkaline water.
2. Second trial: was done together with Fong Ling and Seok Lee and tried out by omitting the alkaline water. It didnt turn out well....was hard. But i think it was not because of not using alkaline water, but rather when we have more people to involve, we tend to talk and that distract our attention. No wonder why old people used to say when they were baking those traditional delicacies, they tried not to have many people around. Partly i think is due to distraction.
3. 3rd trial: was a done in a rather hasty mood coz while seeing the unsuccessful of the 2nd trial, i hastily tried out at night. Baking, must be done in rather quiet and steady mood, i guess.
4. 4th trial: tada....i waited for near 3-4 hours before i left the mixture to 'sit' and bake them. And they are true success! This time, i used the required alkaline water.
Friday, July 8, 2011
童言童语
柔帆：妈咪，是谁选你做老师的？
我：是我自己选的。 ^.^
就像你选妈咪和Daddy做你的爸爸妈妈一样。
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爸爸在开着柔帆爱吃的榴莲时
柔帆问：妈咪，你是怎样找到这样好的老公的？
我：哦，是他自己找我的。我，fiew veet一下，他就来了。^.^
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我：是我自己选的。 ^.^
就像你选妈咪和Daddy做你的爸爸妈妈一样。
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爸爸在开着柔帆爱吃的榴莲时
柔帆问：妈咪，你是怎样找到这样好的老公的？
我：哦，是他自己找我的。我，fiew veet一下，他就来了。^.^
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Wednesday, July 6, 2011
Simplicity Parenting
As i was listening to Kim John Payne talking about:
"In the society of nowadays, there is always:
- more, more, more
- sooner, sooner, sooner,
- younger,younger, younger"
"There is this boy who doesnt want to go to day care, play dates, or extra tuitions. He just WANT TO GO HOME."
--- sound so familiar that i thought deeply about Kui Han, Hong Zhen's brother who refuses to go to day care center coz he just want to be home. Such a sad phenomena where one own a double storey house, yet the child get to go back to sleep only. An investment to turn it to become a hotel?
" In our family, we do it this way, "This is certainly a amazing toy. But i dont think we can."
Discipline becomes way.
Children establish deeper relationship....coz they are popular kids."
--- i thought of my little girls, who were always popular.... Now i know where it comes from.
When cousin or friends has anything new, they have never asked for this or that. Coz they know they have ENOUGH.
" They know who their family are.
They are strong."
--- How true!
Get more of this stuff here:
Simplicity Parenting
"In the society of nowadays, there is always:
- more, more, more
- sooner, sooner, sooner,
- younger,younger, younger"
"There is this boy who doesnt want to go to day care, play dates, or extra tuitions. He just WANT TO GO HOME."
--- sound so familiar that i thought deeply about Kui Han, Hong Zhen's brother who refuses to go to day care center coz he just want to be home. Such a sad phenomena where one own a double storey house, yet the child get to go back to sleep only. An investment to turn it to become a hotel?
" In our family, we do it this way, "This is certainly a amazing toy. But i dont think we can."
Discipline becomes way.
Children establish deeper relationship....coz they are popular kids."
--- i thought of my little girls, who were always popular.... Now i know where it comes from.
When cousin or friends has anything new, they have never asked for this or that. Coz they know they have ENOUGH.
" They know who their family are.
They are strong."
--- How true!
Get more of this stuff here:
Simplicity Parenting
Tuesday, July 5, 2011
华德福娃娃的心缘聚会 A Waldor Doll Tea Party
妈妈美女排阵经过了1个半月,每个星期一次，我们都终于‘生产’顺利，把娃娃生出来了！
那天凤玲把工作分配下来。。。打从心底也蛮期待这场聚会的。感恩她的协调。^.^
临出门前，老公问，哇你去party哦，我可以去吗？我说，可以。。。。哈哈，都明知道是一群妈妈聚会呢，他才不会去啦。
凤玲真的就是我们的设计师，把nature table 摆设好，等待一一到来的娃娃。。。。
到齐的娃娃是：
Seok Lee给威盛的男娃娃，婉真（在家婆的帮忙下）给Erin和Erica的女娃娃，凤玲给JingKi的男娃娃，Angie给宇航的男娃娃，Jesslyn给女儿的女娃娃，Teacher Tan给Gabriel的男娃娃，桂专给珈蕙的女娃娃，瑞娟给家诚家瑜家宣的娃娃，我给JoEe的女娃娃。
终于开始了。。。从唱歌开始。
其实从来不曾在朋友圈里弹琴，老娘的硬手指还有老娘的音乐感，在多年前，死光了。。。。还是不曾活过？呵呵。。。但都是好事，过去我是帮阿莹翻书的那个，也公认是没有节奏感的学生，aural每每刚刚过关或F，混日子也过了8级，学习过程像极了当今的SPM考生，囫囵吞枣，情感零蛋，最终也可以过关斩将。
可是，在这个妈妈团里，让我的音乐感有股纯纯欲动的在流动。
这几天，在家里爱上了这首‘听妈妈的话’还有‘朋友’，和The Sound Of Music.
选择周杰伦的‘听妈妈的话’--因为听着听着，就像在回溯妈妈的话呢：
听妈妈的话/别让她受伤/想快快长大/才能保护她/美丽的白发/幸福中发芽/天使的魔法/温暖中慈祥
更何况，我们的相聚都是因为是彼此都是妈妈而凑成的。因缘之殊胜啊！
‘朋友’--
这些年一个人/风也过雨也走/有过泪有过错/还记得坚持甚麽/真爱过才会懂/会寂寞会回首
终有梦终有你在心中/朋友一生一起走/那些日子不再有/一句话一辈子/一生情一杯酒
朋友不曾孤单过/一声朋友你会懂/还有伤还有痛/还要走还有我
女人啊，我们何其多重身份啊，又是妈妈，又是朋友，这珍贵的友情，都得来不易。。。。我蛮感动的。。。
女人啊，前世我们该是已经约好了。。。。
偶尔我们都会很忙。。。。其实我们都很忙，多重角色，那不忙呢？
但是能有机缘围聚在一起做娃娃，那能不感恩呢？
The Sound Of Music -- 是我个人的一个梦吧，就是期望音乐之声，能继续飘扬。。。飘扬。 比如，说不定，我们以后有个孩子的剧场。。。我的梦又开始来了，常常都说，I am a dreamer,not a doer.嘻嘻。
我们有个山寨版S.H.E.: 由Alila SHE 的组员SeokLee，Angie 和Teacher Tan 呈献“感谢”：
感謝親愛的爸媽/給我擋風遮雨的家/為我做香噴噴飯菜/陪伴我長大/
感謝親愛的老師/教導我無窮盡知識/指引人生迷網方向/陪伴我長大
感謝親愛的朋友/分享生活苦辣酸甜/一起探索這浩瀚世界/陪伴我長大
感謝路邊的小花小草/妝點風景詩篇/感謝經過的大風大雨/增加我勇氣
感謝流動的水/偉大的高山/感謝上天和大地/我們擁有平安的每一天
-- 昨晚练，今天出场了。一级棒的妈妈！
就是那么MultiPurpose的，可以变来变去，名副其实的妈妈把万能功能发挥出来。
凤玲代表全体：
-感谢姑婆 -- 因为有了她的付出，瑞娟才有时间和我们分享这段做娃娃日子。
-感谢瑞娟无私的分享
-感谢我们的丈夫，才会成就我们有时间聚在一起。（嗯，是的，纵然大家都不是大富大贵，但有另一边的支持，就是最大的财富了。） -- 又或者如Jesslyn和桂专，也要感谢宽容的老板，让这两个’偷渡客’可以心安理得利用破碎的时间来成就这份福分。
凤玲：虽然JingKi的年龄是稍大了，虽然儿子也说不要，但做娃娃给儿子是妈妈的心愿。而十一岁的儿子后来也和妈妈讨论要怎么弄娃娃的头发。妈妈的心，孩子不是不懂，只是都会一直在感受着。。。
SeokLee:给7岁的威盛做个娃娃时，他也说不要女孩子的东西。可是，缝好了后，竟然就带娃娃陪他睡觉了。男生，看来都有生藏不露的感情世界。
Angie:7岁的宇航从一开始就很期待妈妈为他一针一线缝好的娃娃，缝好的娃娃，有黄色的头发，有个好听的名字，叫Bob。Angie对华德福教育，来自Seok lee,对这教育的认同感，可说是一接触即发，加入了这妈妈团，让她有着莫名的感动。侄女知道阿姨缝娃娃时，还说为什么要缝，在外面都有得买一个了，可是缝好后，16岁的侄女呵，也想要一个。
老娘我：9岁的竺妤爱极了这个有头发的娃娃。从娃娃没有头发开始，她就说Baby才出世是这样子的。花了好多心神研究如何缝头发，有了棕色的头发后，原本还想加缝上多几条’毛‘，但她都说好了够了，乍看之下，娃娃就像她，有个聪慧的高额头。抱着娃娃和娃娃说悄悄话的情景，是如此熟悉，也如此温馨。我老妈子终于看到她的女儿缝娃娃，牙嘛，不懂有没有笑脱几颗，不过肯定是无法想象我踩针车的模样。
婉真：缝了一个娃娃给Erin，又在家婆的帮助下缝了另一个给Erica。过后又接了几单，看来得排期慢慢等了。原因很简单，做了一个后，感觉上其实也并不是很难，就想要做给某某朋友的孩子。爱呵，就是那么轻易的流露和流传。
Jesslyn:当只缝好头，还没有身体时，亲戚的孩子，已经一个个抢来玩了。也好久好久没有在忙碌的工作时间里，好好的静静的做手工，更没想到其实自己是可以缝好娃娃的。娃娃呵娃娃，妈妈等着你生出来，就好象在看着原来的自己的诞生。
桂专：缝好的娃娃有个名字，但是答应了8岁的珈蕙不可以说出来。为了带这个娃娃来聚会，也要讨论好几回，看来娃娃真的是珈蕙的最爱，不可以轻易出门亮相。分享了自己这么多年来的改变，从忙忙碌碌，没有时间见到孩子的过程到如今，这条路走来不易，但有努力做着改变总好过原地踏步呵。改变，对任何人来说，都何其不容易，但是有做了改变，接下去的都会慢慢都会陆续的跟着改变。加油！
Teacher Tan：当华德福老师是做的娃娃和以妈妈身份做的娃娃，都是有差别的。2岁的Gabriel一开始好像对娃娃没有特别的喜好，妈妈就把娃娃摆在外面，一直到有客人来时，看到了别人拿着娃娃时，他就认为娃娃是他的。他好像也懂得区分什么是buy和make，会说daddy buy,mommy make.孩子对于心灵和物质，都有特别的感应。
瑞娟：做了3个娃娃给3个孩子。本来10岁的儿子还说他不要pondan的东西，妈妈后来发现儿子常常会在晚上睡觉时把娃娃带上床边。孩子在心情不好时，娃娃又变成了一个安抚他们的代替妈妈。当初想凝聚几个朋友来做，只是因为日本的海啸事件时，Teacher Junko要做娃娃来安抚当地受影响的孩子，所以就以为可以有更多人一起来学，然后做多一些。
娃娃，就不再只是纯粹的娃娃而已。
娃娃，是妈妈内心满满的爱。。。可以延续更多的爱，可以承载更多的关怀。
给瑞娟的一番小小心意： --- 一时间觉得每个人都是艺术家，包刮老娘本人，过去都没把自己的艺术细胞叫醒。 ^.^
点心时间： -- 谢谢angie和seok lee还有婉真，噢，还有桂专让我们回味印度味。怎么可以也忘了可口的罗汉果：
好久都没有推动力用文字把人事物摘录下来了，写着这点点滴滴时，突然间，看到这段文字，感动久久:
Love yourself and be awake -
today, tomorrow, always.
First establish yourself in the way,
then teach others,
and so defeat sorrow.
...To straighten the crooked
you must first do a harder thing -
straighten yourself.
You are the only master. Who else?
Subdue yourself,
and discover your master.
- Buddha
说得。太棒了！
p/s:晚餐时间到，要回到工作岗位了。^.^
Friday, July 1, 2011
母亲的工作是什么？
"母亲的工作就是“做母亲”；模仿是孩子最重要的学习能力，做一个值得模仿的人，让孩子有一个值得模仿的榜样，就是母亲最重要的工作。母亲的工作就是做平时该做的事情；洗衣、做饭、整理家务...而不是整日陪在孩子身边玩耍." -- http://www.tobebooks.net/tobelive/dv_rss.asp?s=xhtml&boardid=43&id=1539&page=1
# Elaine:母亲忙于家务时,把孩子带在身边,也可以忙中作乐.这是我这一个月里的新体会.
- 我可以感觉你的喜悦。：）这，何賞不是‘活在当下’吗？佛法的实践就在其中。谢谢你的分享。。。我也尤其喜欢看到在忙碌时，孩子会因为模仿而想参与。老实说，我还真的是一个不懂和孩子玩的妈妈，只懂得一直做家务和想点子弄喜欢的食物（不是孩子喜欢，是我自己喜欢的）。哈哈。
# Miki: Why dun u share house work with ur kids. Let them do the minor job. They will have fun and just do it as playing a game. I used to do house work and baking with my gal. She really enjoy it. No doubt, she learn a lot in game.
- 是的。：）今天，弄了炒花生，小朋友就过来po花生皮，昨天少了青菜，小朋友就帮我採薄荷叶让我煮薄荷蛋花汤，在家的时间其实总是排得满满的，前天要煮红豆沙，叫她菜四叶的oandan，生活上的计算是太棒了。昨天也好开心，我们第二次了，在屋外起火扇火炒菜，炒番薯，烤番薯。
#紫云：模仿当儿难免状况百出..哎呀抹地水可以洗脸吗? 咦7分满面糊不对耶溢出来了哦! 啊。。糟糕,把面粉当天花撒! 天啊洗衣机怎么被off 了呢? 完蛋九层塔的幼苗这次驾返瑶池了...凭良心说，都是状况，怎么说呢, 这些"不算愉快" 的状况; 做妈妈的还需给于一个 "不失愉快" 地高难度表情+EQ+内心交战 !
- 哈哈！紫云，是你的想象力丰富，还是真的发生在你身上？这，我就没试过，不过把我的番薯包搞到四不像，有动物有厨房用具有意大利面就有，也把我的pandan叶采了撕到烂，也常把窗帘改装成屋子，把要丢掉的箱子当宝也当屋子最后变成屋子角落的一堆垃圾。但是，最终成果是，某天9岁的女儿竟然会做sushi给全家人吃，而且老公还称赞比我做的好吃。
# 紫云： 芯俐我还真但愿那仅仅是我的想象, 诚如你所分享的: 母亲的工作不就是做母亲吗? 生活细节上你我他及许多母亲皆属 "the right time for the right job" 的家务机械人, 大太阳咯赶紧晒一晒, 天阴了快手快脚和雨滴赛跑...起床刷牙如厕这些模仿是生活自理的重要入门法 !! 我想尝试说: 生活里头的无力感是个真实的存在, 日夜的累积会让母亲郁郁寡欢, 与其寡欢到一个程度时需要大发一次脾气来平衡, 不如坦然接受那些无力感并且立马从小处唠叨几句, 尽量让自己的心态平衡些，然后接下来或许就是多华德福多创造一些看似无谓其实极有帮助的的小快乐为上策...
- 紫云，其实我也是在学习将简单落实在生活里，就在呼吸时呼吸，大便时大便，吃饭时吃饭，是妈妈时做妈妈，是人时就好好珍惜这个人身，纵然有多重身份，但每一个时候，往内观时，总不乏“慈悲’。。。每个行为的背后是以慈悲为导。。。。。分享一下，“妈妈的佛法书"太棒了。。。让我受惠良多。共勉之。。
#紫云：芯莉这个美好星期五早看到 "以慈悲为导"，我心里又喜又哀... 慈悲二字带心, 那 慈。悲。爱。本是一家，一切从心出发...想来妈妈佛法书同样会让我受惠无限...
- 紫云，我的体验是：‘慈’乃善待自己与别人，‘悲’乃感觉自己与别人。‘喜怒哀乐’仅仅是感觉的一部分。最近都常常‘心想事成’，想jawa面，老爸就买了，想‘教育’就有机缘看到善缘在扩展，所以从昨天开始，我想：“何不感觉自己的慈悲本怀”，结果在感觉自己的慈悲时，奇怪的发现，我的mangchang/不耐烦竟然不翼而飞了。
# Elaine:母亲忙于家务时,把孩子带在身边,也可以忙中作乐.这是我这一个月里的新体会.
- 我可以感觉你的喜悦。：）这，何賞不是‘活在当下’吗？佛法的实践就在其中。谢谢你的分享。。。我也尤其喜欢看到在忙碌时，孩子会因为模仿而想参与。老实说，我还真的是一个不懂和孩子玩的妈妈，只懂得一直做家务和想点子弄喜欢的食物（不是孩子喜欢，是我自己喜欢的）。哈哈。
# Miki: Why dun u share house work with ur kids. Let them do the minor job. They will have fun and just do it as playing a game. I used to do house work and baking with my gal. She really enjoy it. No doubt, she learn a lot in game.
- 是的。：）今天，弄了炒花生，小朋友就过来po花生皮，昨天少了青菜，小朋友就帮我採薄荷叶让我煮薄荷蛋花汤，在家的时间其实总是排得满满的，前天要煮红豆沙，叫她菜四叶的oandan，生活上的计算是太棒了。昨天也好开心，我们第二次了，在屋外起火扇火炒菜，炒番薯，烤番薯。
#紫云：模仿当儿难免状况百出..哎呀抹地水可以洗脸吗? 咦7分满面糊不对耶溢出来了哦! 啊。。糟糕,把面粉当天花撒! 天啊洗衣机怎么被off 了呢? 完蛋九层塔的幼苗这次驾返瑶池了...凭良心说，都是状况，怎么说呢, 这些"不算愉快" 的状况; 做妈妈的还需给于一个 "不失愉快" 地高难度表情+EQ+内心交战 !
- 哈哈！紫云，是你的想象力丰富，还是真的发生在你身上？这，我就没试过，不过把我的番薯包搞到四不像，有动物有厨房用具有意大利面就有，也把我的pandan叶采了撕到烂，也常把窗帘改装成屋子，把要丢掉的箱子当宝也当屋子最后变成屋子角落的一堆垃圾。但是，最终成果是，某天9岁的女儿竟然会做sushi给全家人吃，而且老公还称赞比我做的好吃。
# 紫云： 芯俐我还真但愿那仅仅是我的想象, 诚如你所分享的: 母亲的工作不就是做母亲吗? 生活细节上你我他及许多母亲皆属 "the right time for the right job" 的家务机械人, 大太阳咯赶紧晒一晒, 天阴了快手快脚和雨滴赛跑...起床刷牙如厕这些模仿是生活自理的重要入门法 !! 我想尝试说: 生活里头的无力感是个真实的存在, 日夜的累积会让母亲郁郁寡欢, 与其寡欢到一个程度时需要大发一次脾气来平衡, 不如坦然接受那些无力感并且立马从小处唠叨几句, 尽量让自己的心态平衡些，然后接下来或许就是多华德福多创造一些看似无谓其实极有帮助的的小快乐为上策...
- 紫云，其实我也是在学习将简单落实在生活里，就在呼吸时呼吸，大便时大便，吃饭时吃饭，是妈妈时做妈妈，是人时就好好珍惜这个人身，纵然有多重身份，但每一个时候，往内观时，总不乏“慈悲’。。。每个行为的背后是以慈悲为导。。。。。分享一下，“妈妈的佛法书"太棒了。。。让我受惠良多。共勉之。。
#紫云：芯莉这个美好星期五早看到 "以慈悲为导"，我心里又喜又哀... 慈悲二字带心, 那 慈。悲。爱。本是一家，一切从心出发...想来妈妈佛法书同样会让我受惠无限...
- 紫云，我的体验是：‘慈’乃善待自己与别人，‘悲’乃感觉自己与别人。‘喜怒哀乐’仅仅是感觉的一部分。最近都常常‘心想事成’，想jawa面，老爸就买了，想‘教育’就有机缘看到善缘在扩展，所以从昨天开始，我想：“何不感觉自己的慈悲本怀”，结果在感觉自己的慈悲时，奇怪的发现，我的mangchang/不耐烦竟然不翼而飞了。
在家自学记：“你的女儿毕业了吗？”
遇到一个老二前幼儿园的家长，那个妈妈问，“你的女儿毕业了吗？”
我：“没有呵，只是去年读到一半就没再读了。”
家长妈妈：“哦，你就是那个自己在家教的hoh。”
我：“喔，是在家，不过没有教哦，是在家玩哦。要不然每天回来连玩都没时间了。”（忘了说我们也常在外面玩。也忘了说现在两姐妹有更多时间切磋，互动，和吵架，偶尔也打架。--- 这才正常的，不是吗?）
家长妈妈：“在家孩子比较幸福哦。”
我：“嘻，是家长比较幸福。”
ooppss....也忘了说今天老二帮我做豆腐花，后来还差点搞糊了。哈哈！其实如果变不成豆腐花就又喝像早上的豆水吧
p/s: 其实我学会了面对自己，知道自己会有喜怒哀乐，孩子也是人呀。我也会尖叫，也会发脾气，都是我也喜欢和孩子共成长。从昨天开始，我想：“何不感觉自己的慈悲本怀”，结果在感觉自己的慈悲时，奇怪的发现，我的mangchang/不耐烦竟然不翼而飞了。。。嗯，我在想着要带孩子学气功静坐之类的修心活动。现在，先学会静静的做手工吧。
p/s: 紫莲，对了，很多父母都埋怨孩子吵架打架，我从华德福教育里看过了曙光。孩子越常在一起，越有机会学习，磨练。同时，在孩子因吵架哭时，我只抱抱她，不抨击‘欺负’人的那个，也同时告诉她们，“你们的事妈妈不懂,还是你们自己解决比较好。”通常，这样子下来，不到10分钟，他们就会‘发癫’式的好起来了。人，我是说，大人，也是有冲突而学习相处的。：）
p/s: SEOK YANG,"出门玩"?没有啦，我们就是玩栽种呵，煮菜呵，浇花，到公园踩脚车，柔帆也常穿上大人的衣扮师父，扮公主，扮登山的人，扮去逛街的aunty等。哦也少不了看蜗牛蚯蚓,更少不了用心吃早餐呢。。懒懒的我偶尔会记录一下这过程在部落格.不是一般上在幼儿园可以看到咯。只是让她，和我们一起过着，传统的童年。都是些平凡，简单，从容的日子。：）
p/s: San Ee,哈哈！其实，同时也会有很多家长觉得：“好像很好，但以后孩子学习跟不上怎么办？”，也同时会有家长觉得：“我好想这样子，可是现实都让我做不到。”，也有家长（而且是鼎鼎大名的华小老师）说：“就看看以后你的孩子怎么样？”。。。。你我都在工商界教育界混了一些时间，也看到了end product,所以我不敢说我‘故意’让人羡慕，只敢说，当你我都找了自己后，其实‘方法’就显现出来了。。。妈妈，本来就是孩子最初的老师。：）
我：“没有呵，只是去年读到一半就没再读了。”
家长妈妈：“哦，你就是那个自己在家教的hoh。”
我：“喔，是在家，不过没有教哦，是在家玩哦。要不然每天回来连玩都没时间了。”（忘了说我们也常在外面玩。也忘了说现在两姐妹有更多时间切磋，互动，和吵架，偶尔也打架。--- 这才正常的，不是吗?）
家长妈妈：“在家孩子比较幸福哦。”
我：“嘻，是家长比较幸福。”
ooppss....也忘了说今天老二帮我做豆腐花，后来还差点搞糊了。哈哈！其实如果变不成豆腐花就又喝像早上的豆水吧
p/s: 其实我学会了面对自己，知道自己会有喜怒哀乐，孩子也是人呀。我也会尖叫，也会发脾气，都是我也喜欢和孩子共成长。从昨天开始，我想：“何不感觉自己的慈悲本怀”，结果在感觉自己的慈悲时，奇怪的发现，我的mangchang/不耐烦竟然不翼而飞了。。。嗯，我在想着要带孩子学气功静坐之类的修心活动。现在，先学会静静的做手工吧。
p/s: 紫莲，对了，很多父母都埋怨孩子吵架打架，我从华德福教育里看过了曙光。孩子越常在一起，越有机会学习，磨练。同时，在孩子因吵架哭时，我只抱抱她，不抨击‘欺负’人的那个，也同时告诉她们，“你们的事妈妈不懂,还是你们自己解决比较好。”通常，这样子下来，不到10分钟，他们就会‘发癫’式的好起来了。人，我是说，大人，也是有冲突而学习相处的。：）
p/s: SEOK YANG,"出门玩"?没有啦，我们就是玩栽种呵，煮菜呵，浇花，到公园踩脚车，柔帆也常穿上大人的衣扮师父，扮公主，扮登山的人，扮去逛街的aunty等。哦也少不了看蜗牛蚯蚓,更少不了用心吃早餐呢。。懒懒的我偶尔会记录一下这过程在部落格.不是一般上在幼儿园可以看到咯。只是让她，和我们一起过着，传统的童年。都是些平凡，简单，从容的日子。：）
p/s: San Ee,哈哈！其实，同时也会有很多家长觉得：“好像很好，但以后孩子学习跟不上怎么办？”，也同时会有家长觉得：“我好想这样子，可是现实都让我做不到。”，也有家长（而且是鼎鼎大名的华小老师）说：“就看看以后你的孩子怎么样？”。。。。你我都在工商界教育界混了一些时间，也看到了end product,所以我不敢说我‘故意’让人羡慕，只敢说，当你我都找了自己后，其实‘方法’就显现出来了。。。妈妈，本来就是孩子最初的老师。：）
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