As an ex Maths
teacher i hv nvr expected my kids to be
excellent in Maths, they dont hv too, coz they are not me. my elder daughter
since std 1 she didnt know how to do increment and decrement 逆序顺序，my std answer
was: dont worry, this year u dont how to do, next yr u will know. now at std 6
she can comprehend questions like 13,19,x,31,37. i am repeating this to my 2nd
daughter who is now in std 3 coz i know questions like this may not be quite
suitable for 9 yr old. although i know there is education system to put blame
on, but in front of them, i wont blame the system, i will only tell them this
is just a challenge, there are many things in life that we may not be ready to
take up but we can always get ready and observe.. my elder daughter since std 1 she didnt know how to do
increment and decrement 逆序顺序，my std answer
was: dont worry, this year u dont how to do, next yr u will know. now at std 6
she can comprehend questions like 13,19,x,31,37. i am repeating this to my 2nd
daughter who is now in std 3 coz i know questions like this may not be quite
suitable for 9 yr old. although i know there is education system to put blame
on, but in front of them, i wont blame the system, i will only tell them this
is just a challenge, there are many things in life that we may not be ready to
take up but we can always get ready and observe. 把一个教育制度的盲点变成我们作为老师父母的生命和生活教育，这是我们可以给孩子最好的礼物。
我们很多时候喜欢断章取义，我们是可以向犹太人芬兰人美国人等等吸取宝贵的经验，但是there is also a reason why we are born
chinese and bred in a multi racial/culture community，有原因的，凡事都有因有缘呵。we may be adapting sth but we have stayed dogmatic
and we always thought 'this is good n that is bad'. 每个族群有自己的进行方式，诚如每个家庭都有自己的家风，我们不能说什么是好什么不好，只有最适合的。考试制度也一样，有些人因为没有考试而怠惰，所以重点不在考试本身，而是方式。但是方式也因人而异。有些人因为老师的谩骂而进步回来感激万分，所以重点又不一定是方式，而是这个人的福报到哪里。有些人因为老师一句话的而跳楼了，可是我们要看到的是，这句话只是一个triggering point， 不是主因，如果要追究为什么我们不说如果早知道我就好好装备一个孩子的耐力，如果早知道我们就让孩子在小时候累积多多的福报，让他以后的生命旅程中，有更多的善知识来引导他。每个时代都有每个时代的挑战,我常常记起一个西藏上师在讲解心经时这么说:dont get fantasy by the idea of 'the
good old days', there has never been.
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