Lunch inspiration

As I was having a simple lunch with a well known neurosurgeon, i heard him saying his challenge with the department which involved dealing with the Bumi issues. But as we were about to finish, i realized that he has left his food unfinished, with some rice, egg yolk and some veges. 原来答案就在这里，但我们的生活环境越好时，我们越忘了要惜福，所以自然的一个人就会面对类似这样的事情来考验他。 能够惜福，自然就有很多贵人围绕在我们身边，助我们一臂之力

人的離去

"人不是因為親人的離去而哭泣，而是因為少了一個人來愛。" "孩子不是你的天使，是孩子讓你變成天使！ " 很多人哀嘆做人苦！做人不苦。大部分人都在醉生夢死、粗心大意、精神恍惚，如同活死人，甚至越老越煩，煩習慣了，沒有心「做人」（Being），沒有投入當下（覺醒）的狀態，所以，人是Reborn，不是Newborn。沒有「做人」（在覺醒狀態做該做的事）才苦。 很多人只求快樂，抗拒痛苦。其實，快樂=痛苦。（快樂和痛苦是一體兩面的） 去天堂之前，不好（不快樂），因為這裡不是天堂；去了天堂也不好（不快樂）， 因為捨不得離開。" " 很多人以為戀愛=快樂，離婚=痛苦。只要認清當下的狀態（現象），就是好、就是快樂。痛苦是因為你沒有認清狀態。" ～滿亞法師

爱情降和英雄

给自己老来的记录，话说‘爱情降’。英雄说不懂当年我放了多少爱情降，快快从实招来。噢！我只能说，咸菜有人青睐，感恩不尽，哪敢乱来呵，更何况我没有解降的，哪敢乱施啊？不过后来，英雄也默认，米已成舟，就算有放降，也不要解降了，英雄甘愿‘中降’。 英雄把小女子当年拍的结婚照放做电脑墙纸，说这是一生人只有得看一次的阿娜多姿摆首扭腰，现在只剩下望梅止渴的情景。唉，其实他还真不明白，观音菩萨显灵也是一百年才那么一次的呀。

Gentle Birth(1)

11 yrs ago, I had water bag burst at 8pm, i showered n took some food. By the time reached hospital it was 9pm. Nurse who attended to me said 1st delivery is it....then need to wait to next day. Doc said only 5cm dilation, still need to wait. I hv nvr taken any thing said to me, internally i was telling myself, "is it? this body belongs to me, i know better than anyone else, the timing doesnt have to follow anyone." So i plugged in my Metta Chanting cassette in my walkman and continued to immerse myself in meditation mode.... u can imagine it was such a long long time ago. At 1230am i had more frequent contraction n i delivered at 1am. Close labour pain was about 1 hour. oh....btw, doc took away the strap ie the Electronic Fetal Heart Monitoring and so it took away the high volume beating which is inaccurate.

Does Flinstone Qualify for Macbook?

Many many ages ago Mac caught my eyes with it's light weight, less(or not at all) prone to virus attack, fast boot up and many other features. Having certain level of fear, i ended up with Acer, going for the lightweight version as well. But alas, i have to accommodate with smaller screen which was fine for me. I was ever so intimidated that i dared not upgrade to Windows 8 and still maintained with XP, fearing that some of my programs may ended incompatible. That's how pathetic i have to be. So keeping myself as dinosaur as i can be seemed to be the safest option. An old friend started asking me where is my Flinstone family ---- referring to my dinosaur technology with no wireless home environment. It was a good topic to start off with about keeping radiation as low as possible. It was even a better topic for old friends to tease me because only old friends will tease without second thoughts. That reminded of this: “Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” ― A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

Mom and i both have Blur vision

Strangely i am having blur vision or floaters today. Oh no, it cant be premature cataract! Well, it is the inherited family disease that comes from my mom which may ingeniously discriminate between 'us and 'other' women. Both of us dont mind getting the 'blur vision' simply because both of us seldom (or dont) wash our glasses and most often than not, we have thumb prints on our glasses. This is just a reflection on the way of living we both have been engaged in. Mom and I are always up to something, and cleaning glasses seems too trivial for us. Yes, instead of holding, we grab glasses as we exit the bathroom. We can ignore the blur images (on our glasses) but not the laundry, and not the list of things-to-do in our mind, and certainly not the added businesses like baking homemade pizza base for lunch, preparing baked beans from the kidney beans I happily got at special offer......and the list goes on. And we are always multi tasking. But of course, up till today, i still cant beat her for being able to sew, watch TV series, chit chat and cook... all concurrently! The best achievement i have recorder so far is to iron, talk over the phone and write down shopping list ---- yet still 1 item less from mom's list. If ever we were to choose another name for ourselves, it would should be MT for Multi Tasking. Yet, i still lack one important bullet in the list -- being Jane of all trades, i am still mistress of none.

"德国宪法禁止学前教育" --- my view

"德国宪法禁止学前教育。 徳裔获得的诺贝尔奖人数占总数的一半。通过国家介入，禁止对孩子过早开发智力，避免将孩子大脑变成硬盘，留给孩子大脑更多的想象空间。孩子在小学前“唯一任务”就是快乐成长。 1.不该过度开发孩子智力 原以为在德国只有幼儿园的孩子不允许学习专业知识，后来才发现上小学的孩子也不能学习额外的课程，即使这个孩子的智商超过同龄人。来自科隆的桑德拉写到：“今年我儿子7岁，我向学校老师提出，能否额外教他一些东西，因为他5-6岁的时候就自己在家学会了基本的阅读、书写和简单的数学计算。老师表示反对并说：您应该让您的孩子与其他孩子保持同步。一个星期后我再次去见老师，并出示了孩子高智商的证书，希望得到她的理解和支持，但老师用一种奇怪的眼光看着我，似乎我像来自外星的人一样。 老师进而解释，孩子智力被过度开发并不是一件好事情，因为必须给孩子的大脑留下想象空间。过多的知识会使孩子的大脑变成了计算机的硬盘，常此下去，孩子的大脑就慢慢地变成了储存器，不会主动思考了。 尽管如此，我对德国禁止学前教育的做法还是不太理解。为了搞清楚这个问题，我专门请教了德国的教育人士，他们让我找《基本法》来看看。翻开联邦德国《基本法》（即宪法），我大吃一惊。其中第七条第六款明确规定，禁止设立先修学校(Vorschule)。我还是不明白德国宪法为何这样规定，只好再请教有关的教育专家。他们告诉我，孩子在小学前的“唯一的任务”就是快乐成长。因为孩子的天性是玩耍，所以要做符合孩子天性的事情，而不应该违背孩子的成长规律。 如果说在上学前对孩子非要进行“教育”的话，那“教育”的重点只有三个方面： 一、基本的社会常识，比如不允许暴力、不大声说话等。 二、孩子的动手能力。在幼儿园期间孩子会根据自己的兴趣参与手工制作，让他们从小就主动做具体的事情。 三、保护孩子情感胚胎，培养情商，培养领导力。 原以为只有德国才有如此奇怪的规定。后来查了一下欧洲有关国家的情况才发现，他们对待小孩子的做法基本上大同小异。" I was using exactly this philosophy especially for my no2, and she didnt hv any prob in catching up her primary school work. she learnt Ejaan and proper way of writing S, G n what not after 7 yrs old. She still get confused over how to write big and small letters at 8 yrs old, but she always has the initiative to learn. Though the local primary school system may not be ready for this ideal system yet, but having a non-rushing home environment for the first 7 yrs is certainly crucial. As such, i dont rush my kids to start too much of reading at young age. Some parents engaged in too much toy buying, but if we feed in with too much of reading, it is also falling to another part of 'consumerism'. That's why nowadays i seldom buy books, but try to encourage them to borrow and excahnge books. Looking back i think that was how i grew up too, at the age 7, after 1st term exam when i first entered the class 1E from 1J, i didnt even know how to write 爸爸妈妈 and i heard someone laughing at me. haha. but who cares? eventually all of us will learn in our own pace. No rushing is always the key. As i get in touched with many of my ex-classmates, i realized that there were many friends who attended at least 2 yrs of kindergarten during my time. Not trying to compare who is better than who. But i found that, people like me and some other friends who hardly have chance to attend a 'good' and competitive kindy during my time ---- eventually did rather well in our studies. We have good initiative to learn and progress. We have high level of curiosity....even till today, i have very high spirit of learning in whatever i am exposed too... and LEARNING itself has never stopped. But unfortunately many friends who have attended kindies for 2 and more years has stopped learning by Std 3-4.....which is at the age of 8-9 yrs old, i.e. at the time when 9 yrs change was about to happen. These friends eventually get punished for their not-doing homework and it was a pity thing that they get caned most of the time. What was the fundamental cause of this happening? Definitely not because of laziness. But it has a lot to do with too much or too early intervention of learning which involves brain. Children before 7, should be exposed to nature, outdoor and lots of play. I remembered myself attending a kindy at 6 yrs old. A village kindy which did not even have a proper 'graduation' party! I can even remembered myself not knowing how to recite number 1-10 by the age of 6 and mom was teasing me i was lagging behind my sister who was 2 yrs younger than me. At 6 yrs old, i fantasied a lot with the backyard at the village Temerloh. I scooped up tadpoles after big rain. I played with rain water during year end flood season. I walked along the rubber tree at the back of my home and picked up the sound of rustling leaves for my memory box. I dont remember knowing how to speak English well, coz the language i knew best was Hokkien! Before 12 yrs old, i hardly watch TV series coz we cant afford video player but that was really a blessing in disguise. I eventually grew up knowing that i didnt have to become anyone's fans except for the lord Buddha, the sage of past and present, the great people with great minds! For goodness ake, for the good lesson and good testimonial that we have from my ex classmates, please, stop abusing a child's brain before 7 yrs old!

生病

姐姐生病。叫妹妹给姐姐量体温。 量好了出来报告说是38点2. 妹妹问妈妈：“怎样？你的孩子生病，你会心痛吗？” 我瞪着这个调皮的小老人，不知该怎么回应她。

教书生涯？

被人‘逼问’为什么有好好的老师不做？浪费了一个好老师？其实我没有‘认真’考虑过这个问题。只是，对于这个朋友，我努力的想着什么样的回答会对她有帮助。我怎么告诉她，我在最后教书的2年常常告诉学生不用读这么多的，数学不会不要紧，以后会用计算机就可以了，学习是很重要可是如果没有求知欲学习是不会发生的（Learning will never occur when there is no urge to learn)。我在想如果她的女儿回来这么告诉她她的老师这么说，她一定想，快点去找补习老师，你这个老师beh iong（不能用）了。我又怎么告诉她，我当着精英班的学生说，你们的SPM文凭纸，除了擦屁股之外，别无他用，因为中五毕业之后，放你在街边你会饿死，如果爸爸妈妈没有给你钱的话。。。。有些生活的体验，非三言两语能告知。有些生命的体会，也非一天两天就能传达。达摩祖师曰：“道本圆成，不用修证。道非声色，微妙难见。如人饮水，冷暖自知，不可向人说也。”是的，“如人饮水，冷暖自知。”。。。抱歉呵朋友，我实在没有办法给你一个满意的答案，因为这牵涉我这个人生的历练，实在不懂得如何简短的告知，有让你误解的部分请见谅。 很多人都很纳闷为什么我辞职。我的理由，可以很广，见人讲人话，见鬼讲鬼话。其实，这份恬静的生活，是只有自己了解的。 这个片里的朋友，Sam，是我学生的哥哥，在一个恰合的因缘下，我们有机会认识。那时，我和Yao都觉得志同道合的人，冥冥中就是会相聚。 Sam的离职，看来是和社会对立的。 我的离职（在工厂和后来的教育界），也看来是不理智的，为什么要离开铁饭碗，和‘多余的钱’过意不去。 可是，我们何必和繁忙的工作混合呢？ 有意义的事，只要从心开心，我们要的，都触手可及。 你，会寻找你内心的声音吗？ 祝福你，祝福我。：） https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?v=10150510790426916

午觉虫

突然间想起，小学开始我就是午觉虫，五年级那年考检定考试前，在佛学班接触了五戒，竟然傻乎乎的和自己说要发愿持不杀戒，结果就是那时起劫杀蚊虫。同一年，检定考试就中状元免读预备班。中三那年，有个朋友说念大悲咒有助增长智慧，结果每晚睡前必念数遍，有时还加心经，心中很想参与经赞组。可是似乎没有机会晚间出来，但是那一年，我依然午觉+电视照看+家庭‘暴乱’，SRP还是过关斩将了。大学时期，午觉依然是不可以缺少的生活条件，图书馆bilik tutorial等等都是我闭目养神的好地方。生老大时metta chanting就是我的力量；生老二时，诵了2部的地藏经--不需什么epidural或止痛针或催生。持戒的福报，持咒的力量，向佛的心，坚定的心力，这点点滴滴，都是想来，很感恩很感恩的事。没有什么神通可言，只有满满的法喜。....纯属留给自己的记录。