你抵抗什麼，什麼就會擴大，
你靜觀什麼，什麼就會消失。
不管正面的問題是:與人衝突、
爭吵，或是受人批評、攻擊、侮辱，
如果你去對抗，問題就會擴大
且持續下去。
我們都可以了解，只要有對抗，
就會有衝突，就會有對立，
而衝突和對立，又會引發憤怒、
怨懟、攻擊，然後就沒完沒了。
反之，只要讓自己沉靜下來，
那麼不論你靜觀什麼，
什麼就會消失。
你不需費心去找任何理由為自己
辨護，只要沉靜下來，你的舉止
本身就會顯示最好的理由。
你不需費力去爭執，
只要沉靜下來，
你連想都不用想，
正確的言語自然就會產生。.
你不需刻意去控制情緒，
只要沉靜下來，什麼都不說，
什麼都不做，什麼都不計較，
心境自然平靜。
所謂萬物靜觀皆自得，
我們只要把心沉靜下來，
直到心田的淤泥沉澱，
湖水自然澄清。
你的困擾自然也就消失不見了。
阿含經中提到，
佛陀在為信徒開示時，
總要先「令其心調柔」
才為其說「法」
（善言正語）。
所以祝福你保有一顆容易感動的心、
柔軟的心、慈悲的心，
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Saturday, February 27, 2010
One inspiring CNY gathering with Ven Kai Bao... up in Bai Yun San
Dear Brother and Sister in the Dharma,
I think this must be an auspicious day to be able to meet up with Ven. Kai Bao up on the hill in Bai Yun San temple on the 5th day of CNY.
All of us were only informed the day before but I guess it was this 'Yuan' that made us able to make it to the meaningful event. :)
We were entertained with lion dance, good food cooked by Ven Kai Bao himself. And this great for the kids. :) All of us love the rojak made by Ven. Kai Bao.
Best of all, it was such an enlightening moment to be able to hear a short talk by Ven Kai Bao.
Candle was lit up and it was something like an endless light (Wu Jing Deng) night that we used to have.
Ven. Kai Bao told a story about 2 tribes during the Buddha time who were going to start a war over the water supply from the only river they shared. Then Buddha came and asked which is more valuable, the lives of the people in both tribes or the river?.
Often we fight or we chased after something which is less valuable than our own lives. To self check, always asked which is more valuable.
I have seldom make new year resolution as I had always have them almost left out by the end of the year. :P
But Ven Kai Bao looked like he has the 'power' of awakening, to wake up this sleeping learning spirit.
He reminded us on the start of the new year, let's try to be like the candle that is lit up and continue to bring light to other beings.
This may sound simple, but how I wish you were there to listen and contemplate that it also meant there is a journey for us to thread in the learning and propagating the Dharma.
It was a very special moment to light up a candle and make a resolution in front of the huge Kuan Yin statue(an image of compassion according to Ven Kai Bao).....(still remember this place?). I guess over the years, we have started to use different terminology like ‘Energy’, instead of the power of metta radiating. haha.
Never mind about this, as long as one still remembers that there is a Buddha seed implanted.
Ven Kai Bao also expressed that we, especially the Alumni of the PPB USM, should take up the initiative to continue with the Annual Reunion Camp, as this was where the sparks started thru PPBUSM.
We had one alumni camp last year with the attendants of ~25 ex-PPB members. We wished we could have another one this year.
I wish you were here that night, not only to have good food, though they were really sumptuous, but to know that a new year should begin with a heart closer to the Buddha.
I wish you were here in our next coming camp, not only to reminisce the good old times, but to know that there is always someone here to support and care in your life, be it the spiritual life, working life and family life.
We were up on the hill together to plant a new seed:
Bro Chew Yiap
Sis. Bao Xue
Sis. Peik Yin and her son
Bro. Chong Sing, Sis. Hwa Siew and their 2 sons, Jaysen and Jayden
Bro Kenny and Sis. Mui Geok
Sis. Cheu Peng (our present PPB advisor...ehm ehm just upgraded), her hubby Ngoh, and their son, Eugene
Bro. Chun Chin
Sis. Sin Dee, Bro. Yong Joon and their daughters, Jo Ee and Jo Von
Bro. Yu Kang & his wife, Yuki.
Bro. Ah Eng
May all the good deeds be with you and all beings!
May you be well and happy!
Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!
I think this must be an auspicious day to be able to meet up with Ven. Kai Bao up on the hill in Bai Yun San temple on the 5th day of CNY.
All of us were only informed the day before but I guess it was this 'Yuan' that made us able to make it to the meaningful event. :)
We were entertained with lion dance, good food cooked by Ven Kai Bao himself. And this great for the kids. :) All of us love the rojak made by Ven. Kai Bao.
Best of all, it was such an enlightening moment to be able to hear a short talk by Ven Kai Bao.
Candle was lit up and it was something like an endless light (Wu Jing Deng) night that we used to have.
Ven. Kai Bao told a story about 2 tribes during the Buddha time who were going to start a war over the water supply from the only river they shared. Then Buddha came and asked which is more valuable, the lives of the people in both tribes or the river?.
Often we fight or we chased after something which is less valuable than our own lives. To self check, always asked which is more valuable.
I have seldom make new year resolution as I had always have them almost left out by the end of the year. :P
But Ven Kai Bao looked like he has the 'power' of awakening, to wake up this sleeping learning spirit.
He reminded us on the start of the new year, let's try to be like the candle that is lit up and continue to bring light to other beings.
This may sound simple, but how I wish you were there to listen and contemplate that it also meant there is a journey for us to thread in the learning and propagating the Dharma.
It was a very special moment to light up a candle and make a resolution in front of the huge Kuan Yin statue(an image of compassion according to Ven Kai Bao).....(still remember this place?). I guess over the years, we have started to use different terminology like ‘Energy’, instead of the power of metta radiating. haha.
Never mind about this, as long as one still remembers that there is a Buddha seed implanted.
Ven Kai Bao also expressed that we, especially the Alumni of the PPB USM, should take up the initiative to continue with the Annual Reunion Camp, as this was where the sparks started thru PPBUSM.
We had one alumni camp last year with the attendants of ~25 ex-PPB members. We wished we could have another one this year.
I wish you were here that night, not only to have good food, though they were really sumptuous, but to know that a new year should begin with a heart closer to the Buddha.
I wish you were here in our next coming camp, not only to reminisce the good old times, but to know that there is always someone here to support and care in your life, be it the spiritual life, working life and family life.
We were up on the hill together to plant a new seed:
Bro Chew Yiap
Sis. Bao Xue
Sis. Peik Yin and her son
Bro. Chong Sing, Sis. Hwa Siew and their 2 sons, Jaysen and Jayden
Bro Kenny and Sis. Mui Geok
Sis. Cheu Peng (our present PPB advisor...ehm ehm just upgraded), her hubby Ngoh, and their son, Eugene
Bro. Chun Chin
Sis. Sin Dee, Bro. Yong Joon and their daughters, Jo Ee and Jo Von
Bro. Yu Kang & his wife, Yuki.
Bro. Ah Eng
May all the good deeds be with you and all beings!
May you be well and happy!
Sadhu! Sadhu! Sadhu!
Friday, December 18, 2009
Handmade reward chart
Wanted to get a reward chart for the girls long time ago.
But it's always the price that put me off --- a daunting RM 70 or more, just for some removable and stickable cartoons!
Then i realized that i have actually had all the resources, why not DIY?
I have some leftover microfiber cloths, leftover of cotton and flannel fabrics, and snaps button. Just need to get more velcro and also reusing a stick.
1. Fold down the microfiber to form a loop so that it hold on the stick.
2. Mark and snap the button on the microfiber cloth with two males on top and two females at the place just below the stick.
3. Cut out the cute cartoon prints on the cotton and flannel fabrics and sew the velcro at the back. We have snoppy, hello kitty, strawberry, bear, assorted flowers.
4. The end result:
5. The back of the removable, washable reward 'sticker', with velcro stitched at the back.:
6. Velcro sticked well on microfiber without having to have another side of the velcro sewn on the back fabric.
7. And all these cost me only RM 3.50 for the 1 m of velcro. If I didn't use up all the velcro previously, this item will be totally FOC!
The girls are so excited with it! We use that to reward them when they do the cleanup, help mummy to prepare food, behave themselves, etc.
But it's always the price that put me off --- a daunting RM 70 or more, just for some removable and stickable cartoons!
Then i realized that i have actually had all the resources, why not DIY?
I have some leftover microfiber cloths, leftover of cotton and flannel fabrics, and snaps button. Just need to get more velcro and also reusing a stick.
1. Fold down the microfiber to form a loop so that it hold on the stick.
2. Mark and snap the button on the microfiber cloth with two males on top and two females at the place just below the stick.
3. Cut out the cute cartoon prints on the cotton and flannel fabrics and sew the velcro at the back. We have snoppy, hello kitty, strawberry, bear, assorted flowers.
4. The end result:
5. The back of the removable, washable reward 'sticker', with velcro stitched at the back.:
6. Velcro sticked well on microfiber without having to have another side of the velcro sewn on the back fabric.
7. And all these cost me only RM 3.50 for the 1 m of velcro. If I didn't use up all the velcro previously, this item will be totally FOC!
The girls are so excited with it! We use that to reward them when they do the cleanup, help mummy to prepare food, behave themselves, etc.
About homeopathy again.... and vaccination
Recommended Dr Ooi's homeopathy to Hooi Ling.
It's has always been our (hubby and me) common recommendation to concern parents who are worried about sending little kiddos to pediatricians who may intend to prescribe overdose or unnecessary medication. Dr. Ooi's kindness and patience has been the key point for us to share.
Google about homeopathy and only realized that the founder, Hahnemann, was whom we had studied before in primary school about quinine and its healing power on malaria.
Thanks to homepathy, little JV has never been on paracetamol, cough mixture, not to mention antibiobiotics and antihisthamine --- not needed anymore.
JV was throwing out paracetamol ever since when she 3 months. For every jab under the vaccination program, paracetamol was just an untouched FREE gift from the Klinik Kesihatan.
p/s: I purposely skipped MMR for both JV and JE.
Why not measles? I mean why not let children get measles? We all do get in during childhood day and as according to many natural healing beliefs, measles is just a self adjusment way of the body to get rid of food from wrong feeding.
Why not mumps? I mean we all get that too. No big deal at all. Just some 'nila' and few days to recuperate at home.
Why not rubella? I get that jab during Form 3. The earliest we should get should be at age 12. So why forced the little body to get the vaccine so early?
Why spoil our body own antibody system?
It's has always been our (hubby and me) common recommendation to concern parents who are worried about sending little kiddos to pediatricians who may intend to prescribe overdose or unnecessary medication. Dr. Ooi's kindness and patience has been the key point for us to share.
Google about homeopathy and only realized that the founder, Hahnemann, was whom we had studied before in primary school about quinine and its healing power on malaria.
Thanks to homepathy, little JV has never been on paracetamol, cough mixture, not to mention antibiobiotics and antihisthamine --- not needed anymore.
JV was throwing out paracetamol ever since when she 3 months. For every jab under the vaccination program, paracetamol was just an untouched FREE gift from the Klinik Kesihatan.
p/s: I purposely skipped MMR for both JV and JE.
Why not measles? I mean why not let children get measles? We all do get in during childhood day and as according to many natural healing beliefs, measles is just a self adjusment way of the body to get rid of food from wrong feeding.
Why not mumps? I mean we all get that too. No big deal at all. Just some 'nila' and few days to recuperate at home.
Why not rubella? I get that jab during Form 3. The earliest we should get should be at age 12. So why forced the little body to get the vaccine so early?
Why spoil our body own antibody system?
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Saturday, October 31, 2009
A birthday party to cherish and remember
It has always been hubby's dream to have something special for FIL. Being brought up in a conservative and traditional family, I can understand that it is definitely not an easy task to ....even hug your dad!
(I have that 'funny' feeling too when I first thought of hugging my mom and dad too!)
The inspiration came when hubby was contemplating his favorite video clip: 《爱和关怀》
He decided to have this kneel-down-tea-session during FIL 73 yrs old birthday celebration.
With the intention of, telling him that:
- how much he loves FIL
- FIL is loved by all
- and also to put down one's ego when kneeling down.
Well, don't let yourself feeling regret later when you know that you didnt do something that you should have done when your parents are alive, right?
FIL eyes were welled with tears when hubby kneel down and hugged him.
This was followed by SILs.
Then the last but not least, VIP MIL --- the most important person in FIL life, guess he has longed for love and recognition from MIL ever since a long long time ago.
MIL was actually quite reluctant to hug FIL, but you can see that FIL quickly hugged her when MIL approached him. How cute!
Hubby said at least he has accomplished the dream of bringing FIL to China lately.
I said this is the first time I see him seeing eyes to eyes with FIL too....so encouraging! :)
A big Sadhu to Tzu Chi for bringing this wonderful inspiration.
May the Lord Buddha bless FIL, MIL and all who make this birthday celebration a successful and memorable event be in peace, love and harmony!
(I have that 'funny' feeling too when I first thought of hugging my mom and dad too!)
The inspiration came when hubby was contemplating his favorite video clip: 《爱和关怀》
He decided to have this kneel-down-tea-session during FIL 73 yrs old birthday celebration.
With the intention of, telling him that:
- how much he loves FIL
- FIL is loved by all
- and also to put down one's ego when kneeling down.
Well, don't let yourself feeling regret later when you know that you didnt do something that you should have done when your parents are alive, right?
FIL eyes were welled with tears when hubby kneel down and hugged him.
This was followed by SILs.
Then the last but not least, VIP MIL --- the most important person in FIL life, guess he has longed for love and recognition from MIL ever since a long long time ago.
MIL was actually quite reluctant to hug FIL, but you can see that FIL quickly hugged her when MIL approached him. How cute!
Hubby said at least he has accomplished the dream of bringing FIL to China lately.
I said this is the first time I see him seeing eyes to eyes with FIL too....so encouraging! :)
A big Sadhu to Tzu Chi for bringing this wonderful inspiration.
May the Lord Buddha bless FIL, MIL and all who make this birthday celebration a successful and memorable event be in peace, love and harmony!
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Kids tagging along for seminar/talks
DH and I have always brought along the girls for any events we went, ever since they were as young as 5-6 months old.
We are proud of the girls who have always behaved nicely when they tagged along for seminars/talks/meetings. They really know how to settle themselves. Tips: we have never regarded kids as 'ma huan'(troublesome) and have let them be a part of our activities when they were as young as few months old.. Having them is a gift of love and a gift of life. 感恩！:)
Well, things doesn't happen just coz i am lucky. Had a hard time when elder girl was a colicky baby when she was 2 months old. Cried non stop every night, from 7pm to 12 am, did everything that others told, from swaddling her, apply ointment on tummy, superstitious acts like knocking her bum on the door before putting her to sleep while saying some mantras, etc....
And later i came to realize that many things has got to do with parents, or usually more related to mother. 凡事有因有缘呵. :) 所以当昨晚的讲座会看到场面刁蛮的孩子时，只是打从心底对其‘不爱负责任’的妈妈有所感触。孩子是自己的，怎可教别人调教啊？感慨感慨。
June was asking about "how u can let your little one to be so coorperate when u r attending seminar or talk?"
i think the parent mindset should come first. Let not our children be our 'burden'. Let them be the source of love n inspiration. I notice a lot Chinese parents nowadays always rgd kids as 'difficult to raise'. Unlike many Malay frens, which i really learn fr them --- parenting is so natural to them coz the love towards oneself and the kids... Read More conquer all. And this sort of 'LOVE' is simply without 'ownnership'. A change of mind will change the energy and thus having more 'cooperative' child. But then, it's not about controlling them.
We are proud of the girls who have always behaved nicely when they tagged along for seminars/talks/meetings. They really know how to settle themselves. Tips: we have never regarded kids as 'ma huan'(troublesome) and have let them be a part of our activities when they were as young as few months old.. Having them is a gift of love and a gift of life. 感恩！:)
Well, things doesn't happen just coz i am lucky. Had a hard time when elder girl was a colicky baby when she was 2 months old. Cried non stop every night, from 7pm to 12 am, did everything that others told, from swaddling her, apply ointment on tummy, superstitious acts like knocking her bum on the door before putting her to sleep while saying some mantras, etc....
And later i came to realize that many things has got to do with parents, or usually more related to mother. 凡事有因有缘呵. :) 所以当昨晚的讲座会看到场面刁蛮的孩子时，只是打从心底对其‘不爱负责任’的妈妈有所感触。孩子是自己的，怎可教别人调教啊？感慨感慨。
June was asking about "how u can let your little one to be so coorperate when u r attending seminar or talk?"
i think the parent mindset should come first. Let not our children be our 'burden'. Let them be the source of love n inspiration. I notice a lot Chinese parents nowadays always rgd kids as 'difficult to raise'. Unlike many Malay frens, which i really learn fr them --- parenting is so natural to them coz the love towards oneself and the kids... Read More conquer all. And this sort of 'LOVE' is simply without 'ownnership'. A change of mind will change the energy and thus having more 'cooperative' child. But then, it's not about controlling them.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Cookies baking
It's school holiday time again! we got some cookies mould from "xiao yi poh".
Mummy own creation of easy baking cookies recipe:
2 cups butter
1 1/4 cups sugar
2 eggs
2 cups flour
1 tsp baking powder
No kitchen scale used, only measuring cup, so that it's easier for the girls,
1 1/4 was a bit difficult to measure. Nevertheless, explaining between 1 1/2 and 1 cup is easier to do.
JE mixed butter and sugar together, mummy blend them together.
Then add the rest.
But then only we realize the dough is too soft for cookies, so mummy add some more flour to make it hard enough. Dont ask me how much i have added it. But it was just nice so that we can press on it with rolling pin and make cookies mould shape out of it.
So the girls make the shapes and mummy bake them in the oven at 170-185oC.
oh gosh, my oven reading has faded so much that i can hardly see the temperature reading nowadays....just agak-agak on everything. :)
The freshly baked cookies tasted to nice that the first tray was immediately gulped by all those little lion cubs!
As time goes by, they begin to loose their patience on finishing all the flour. (LESSON LEARNT: the dough is too much, should have reduced it to half of the amount so that they can finish fast.)
At the end of the session, and as they have promised, they will have to do the clean up. From sweeping the floor to mopping the floor.
But of course, shouting is inevitable.
"IF YOU DONT CLEAR UP AS YOU PROMISED, I AM NOT GOING TO LET YOU HAVE ANOTHER SESSION LIKE THIS ANYMORE!!!!" ,
"CLEAN UP NOW! I SAID NOW!!!! NO MORE PLAYING!" --- coz the mop has turned into a toy to play with for the girls and you can hear giggles from them upon seeing each other act on the mop itself.
Mummy own creation of easy baking cookies recipe:
2 cups butter
1 1/4 cups sugar
2 eggs
2 cups flour
1 tsp baking powder
No kitchen scale used, only measuring cup, so that it's easier for the girls,
1 1/4 was a bit difficult to measure. Nevertheless, explaining between 1 1/2 and 1 cup is easier to do.
JE mixed butter and sugar together, mummy blend them together.
Then add the rest.
But then only we realize the dough is too soft for cookies, so mummy add some more flour to make it hard enough. Dont ask me how much i have added it. But it was just nice so that we can press on it with rolling pin and make cookies mould shape out of it.
So the girls make the shapes and mummy bake them in the oven at 170-185oC.
oh gosh, my oven reading has faded so much that i can hardly see the temperature reading nowadays....just agak-agak on everything. :)
The freshly baked cookies tasted to nice that the first tray was immediately gulped by all those little lion cubs!
As time goes by, they begin to loose their patience on finishing all the flour. (LESSON LEARNT: the dough is too much, should have reduced it to half of the amount so that they can finish fast.)
At the end of the session, and as they have promised, they will have to do the clean up. From sweeping the floor to mopping the floor.
But of course, shouting is inevitable.
"IF YOU DONT CLEAR UP AS YOU PROMISED, I AM NOT GOING TO LET YOU HAVE ANOTHER SESSION LIKE THIS ANYMORE!!!!" ,
"CLEAN UP NOW! I SAID NOW!!!! NO MORE PLAYING!" --- coz the mop has turned into a toy to play with for the girls and you can hear giggles from them upon seeing each other act on the mop itself.
Friday, August 21, 2009
Art and Craft Session at Taska Lin
This happened some time ago.
I almost forgot about it completely until JE mentioned to me again today.
Decided to let both of them have an art and craft session at Taska Lin which adopted Waldorf education system.
Teacher Lin was giving them a session on Waldorf puppet making.
This means the 6 and 3 yrs old girls will have to use needles to sew the cloths of the puppet, draw the eyes and nose and also glue the hair.
Was an enjoyable session for both of them.
And took back the puppet back.
Each session was only RM 20(plus material) and lasted about 2-3 hours.
They even had a picnic at the taska bungalow compound after that. How fun!
JE told me the untold version of the time they were there:
Teacher Lin tried to warm them up by letting them to feed the little tortoise. While holding the tortoise food, which look so cute, JV had actually had a mouth of the tortoise food. Hmmm.....must be kind of different taste, and not sure if she really gobble the whole thing in or not. But lucky that Teacher Lin saw this and took out from her mouth. Then throw back to the tortoise.
Do you think you will still remember this, Von?
I almost forgot about it completely until JE mentioned to me again today.
Decided to let both of them have an art and craft session at Taska Lin which adopted Waldorf education system.
Teacher Lin was giving them a session on Waldorf puppet making.
This means the 6 and 3 yrs old girls will have to use needles to sew the cloths of the puppet, draw the eyes and nose and also glue the hair.
Was an enjoyable session for both of them.
And took back the puppet back.
Each session was only RM 20(plus material) and lasted about 2-3 hours.
They even had a picnic at the taska bungalow compound after that. How fun!
JE told me the untold version of the time they were there:
Teacher Lin tried to warm them up by letting them to feed the little tortoise. While holding the tortoise food, which look so cute, JV had actually had a mouth of the tortoise food. Hmmm.....must be kind of different taste, and not sure if she really gobble the whole thing in or not. But lucky that Teacher Lin saw this and took out from her mouth. Then throw back to the tortoise.
Do you think you will still remember this, Von?
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